• Musings

    About Honoring yourself..

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    your needs don’t make you too much. they don’t make you selfish or weak or greedy. they make you human. we all have needs. and those hungers aren’t something we should feel ashamed of. they’re normal, we didn’t get enough of them as children hungers. affections we’ve been deprived of by the people who are supposed to care for us. connections we needed to feel whole and spaces we needed to feel safe. cravings we’ve been taught we didn’t deserve. appetites we’ve learned to suppress and fill with guilt. again and again we’ve neglected our needs because we’ve been taught that they were too much— that we were too much. but we don’t have to any longer. you don’t have to. whether you need support, alone time, affection, connection, validation, or reassurance that you are loved — it is more than okay to ask for what you need. making your needs known isn’t about being demanding or selfish. it’s about self-care. it’s about creating a safer space for yourself. it’s about using your voice and speaking your truth. it’s about giving yourself permission to take up space. it’s about listening to your hungers and honoring them. it’s about honoring yourself.

  • Musings

    On Kindness..

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    I have started to believe in small gestures: pay for their coffee, hold the door for strangers, over tip, smile or try to be kind even when you don’t feel like it, pay compliments, chase the kid’s runaway ball down the sidewalk and throw it back to him, try to be larger than you are— particularly when it’s difficult. People do notice, people appreciate. I appreciate it when it’s done to (for) me. Small gestures can be an effort, or actually go against our grain (“I’m not a big one for paying compliments…”), but the irony is that almost every time you make them, you feel better about yourself. For a moment life suddenly feels lighter, a bit more Gene Kelly dancing in the rain.