• Musings



    Being myself was an unheard phenomenon in my life for a long time. There was a time in my life where I always tried to be around many people to ensure something is always happening but never truly being myself. Because why not? I always thought of myself as an awkward kid or situations made me feel so. I was one of those kids who would never raise their hand in the class or would turn red if someone asks them anything. I still do. As I’ve gotten older, I have realised the way I connect with people is different from how people (specifically women) might usually do in the city I live in.

    My friends in school would stay at each other’s house, watch movies together, seem to enjoy each others company and have a lot of fun. Me on the other hand, I was never a first bencher or a studious kid who generally get bullied by other kids, I was a quiet kid with hardly any friends. I couldn’t relate to people in my school life and things were the same in college. Guys on the other hand were more relatable – because they don’t talk about crushes and heartbreaks and other useless shit. I was more fascinated by someone talking about some sort of music, or movies or a new place or something that would expand my knowledge in some way if nothing else. I never cared about going to parties as much as my friends did until I became friends with people who liked it a lot and I forced myself to fit in because honestly I didn’t want to lose my friends.  I forced myself to do things I wont be interested in otherwise. But you can’t drag yourself too much my friend, there comes a point when you are done with it and thats what happened with me because I didn’t feel like myself and I wasn’t happy with what I was becoming. Everyone around me seemed to fit together like an awesome jigsaw puzzle, and I somehow didn’t.

    That’s not how I pictured my life to be, I fantasised about finding a cool group of friends who would sit on a sunny afternoon in a park and talk about (honestly in Chandigarh) anything other than relationships, OTHER PEOPLE AND MONEY. I am really happy for a few good friends that I met in college/work and the fact that we are still good friends. But I still miss that like-mindedness and hobbies to share. Initially I use to feel there is something wrong with me, but I’ve made my peace with it. Now I feel happy with the fact that I’m comfortable with myself and I don’t force myself into things. I don’t like the pressure of socialising. Unlike most people my source of happiness doesn’t come from socialising. It is really good sometimes, yes. But I don’t come across people I would like to socialize with that often.  The funny part about living in Chandigarh is, (especially for women) even if you come across someone who interests you and you would like to know about them more, you just can’t ask it. You just can’t say – Hey, it was lovely meeting you, I would love to meet again over a coffee or something! Because people think you are weird and they don’t even give it a second thought.

    There are many advantages of being comfortable with yourself. For me, I don’t struggle with solitude. A weekend without plans doesn’t bore me –  I don’t get panicky that I’m not doing anything like other people. Before my wedding, I’ve spent so much time alone that it has helped me define who I am. It helped me to start this blog, read amazing stuff, helped me decide what I want, free from the expectations of other people.


    Until next time!


  • Talk with the Beauties

    Meet Chyunid from Bhutan :)

    I’m not sure if there is something about the air around this time of the year coz man oh man, I feel so inspired. I don’t know what’s gone into me – whatever it is – I love it! Having said that, I’m going to kick of this week by some bloggy-goodness, yes! So I am introducing this new category to my blog, (which honestly I don’t work will work or not, but I can only try, right!?) I have been thinking about something like this from a long time.  I wanted to start this series mostly because since I’ve started blogging regularly – I have also started to feel really narcissistic. There are so many people out there who inspire me in many ways, so I thought starting a series on them might be fun and also I get to know them! Win – Win! So in this category, I would cover stories of people who inspire me in terms of their work, style and beauty. (Note – These might or might not be popular people). 

    So let’s get started! 

    This year in March I visited Bhutan and I completely fell in love with the country. Apart from its astonishing beauty & culture – I was also amazed and mesmerised by the street style. I immediately started looking up for stylish people in Bhutan and Chyunid’s blog came up.  I’ve been reading her blog ever since. I really wanted to know more about her and so I wrote an email telling her about the series and that I would like her to be a part of it and guess what – she said yes! I hope you guys enjoy you this! 🙂

    screen-shot-2016-09-18-at-10-45-09-pm Meet Chyunid from Bhutan :)

     1. Can you tell me a little about what you do and what kind of things you enjoy the most? ( these need not to be fashion related)

    I’m a full time aircraft engineer. Besides that I just enjoy every bits and pieces of stuff to work with.

    2.     When I was in Bhutan, I realized women had great skin. What is your daily facial skincare routine?

    Honestly, I think its all about hydration. I would totally recommend drinking lots and lots of water. 

    screen-shot-2016-09-18-at-10-45-09-pm Meet Chyunid from Bhutan :)

    screen-shot-2016-09-18-at-10-45-09-pm Meet Chyunid from Bhutan :)

    3.     I also realized they had great hair.(:P) How do you care for your hair?

    Oiling and hair mask. I would make sure I use conditioning all the time esp. at my tips of my hair rather than roots.

    4.     What’s the best thing about Bhutan? For me, the open mindedness of people towards women was really inspiring. Being right next to India, you can’t expect such an open culture for women.

    For me best thing about Bhutan is fresh air and clean water and above all happiness. 

    screen-shot-2016-09-18-at-10-45-09-pm Meet Chyunid from Bhutan :)

    5.     I really like your style. I am a huge vintage fan and I always find a hint of vintage touch in your style and you completely rock it. How would you describe your style? Who inspires you?

    I have never stuck to one style to be honest, I love trying different trends and its always fun. I love exploring fashion around different parts of world and those inspires me the most.

    6.     I see you do a lot of interesting DIY projects. What made you do so and from how long are you doing it? Any tips for starters?  

    I have always loved doing mini projects. I always made dresses for my doll as a kid and as I grew up I started making my own..haha. 

    screen-shot-2016-09-18-at-10-45-09-pm Meet Chyunid from Bhutan :)

    7.     Finally, do you have an overall fashion/beauty philosophy?

    If you love doing something, just keep doing it and guess it just happens.

    Follow her on Instagram – @chyunid


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