• Musings

    The island of misfit toys..

    tumblr_m6pn62w7dh1qcim7zo1_r1_1280 The island of misfit toys..

    from past one year (particularly since this time of the year) my life has been a whirlwind! i think i have changed a lot as a person and crossed that age where you make immature decisions, don’t think about what others think about you, where you do your own thing, don’t know who your real friends are and what kind of friends you should make!

    it’s been a long year of self-explorations and fighting with my inner demons. i have discovered new traits about myself and i am loving the change and embracing it. well it’s not that i suffered with issues of self- loathing, but i have never been comfortable with what i see about myself in the mirror. this year marks a milestone – i finally understood it is important to be able to be your own person before you become something for someone else.

    i’m coming to terms with the fact that i might never be able to engage myself in conversation with strangers or feel absolutely confident to be able to order my food properly. i’m working on changing these things about myself and be okay with the idea of failing before you get something right. there are things that i didn’t know about myself and  i felt touched when an outsider discovered rest of my capabilities that can make me larger than who i am right now.

    i am not proud of every kink that i’ve brought to the table. however, i am starting to believe that with all the wrong doings you learn to understand yourself as a person and understand the person you want to or don’t want to become and it will help you with all the relationships in your life.

    the biggest problem i faced was when i was in my early 20s and i was constantly feeling the need to change myself to fit into a category that wasn’t for me. a lot of people have come and gone and now i realize i shouldn’t have pretended to be someone i am not. working on yourself is all good and nice, but one should never change their morals or interests to depict something that they are not.

    a lot of people ive seen become victim of modifying themselves in order to appeal to other person – which in my opinion is arbitrary and temporary. it’s sad, really! but now it’s time I focus on myself completely- love myself and build a strong person inside myself. things will fall into place when they need to – till then be happy with yourself and try and get to know yourself more – trust me, you will never be alone!

    xx

  • Musings

    Our thirsty social media brains..

    Oh hey guys!

    Well  it’s not been too long I started this blog and I would like to thank you all  for following me ! 🙂

    So about  a week back, I had this talk among my fellow workers about social media. Like expected everyone started talking about the all the benefits that it comes with- we can get in touch with old friends, relatives living at distance, get to know what’s happening in their life through Facebook, twitter and so on and for a person like me- who isn’t very good at remembering birthdays and stuff- this does works well for sure! So basically we all know about the benefits, don’t we!?

    im-on-facebook1 Our thirsty social media brains..

    My concern is the side effects that it has.  Like everything else – this does have negatives too!  There is this really weird thing I’ve noticed. Whenever I meet someone new- like a friend or a new employee at work – they add me on Facebook and everywhere else, but rarely talk in person! Why do we do that? I have done that too and I’ve realized- I guess we don’t care about knowing or talking to someone in person because we get to know about them through Facebook or by looking at their timeline we get a fair idea of what kind of person they might be!  I guess it’s making the whole communication process less effective and we are getting less interested in knowing someone in person rather we are more interested in their social life. Of course – that’s why we follow them everywhere!

    And there was this article I read few of weeks back which gave  a whole new dimension to it. It was majorly focused on teenagers and it said that there has been an increase in tendency of people becoming pretentious. Like I said – we are becoming more and more interested in others social life and what others have been upto and in this whole process, somewhere we start comparing our life to others life. If someone has a lot of pictures on Facebook with  friends or have been travelling a lot and having a lot of fun, we somewhere start comparing ourselves to them.  This tendency of comparison is mostly seen in teenagers and therefore to fit themselves into this social environment, they seem to become pretentious. A very realistic example was of posting pictures, people go out not to have fun, but to click pictures so that others can think their life is fun.  Everyone wants to show everyone that they are fun.  It’s true and depressing at the same time. I’ve seen a lot of people behaving like that and it makes me feel really sorry for them.

    These social media sites are good for sure and they should be used for the best and please don’t let  them affect you negatively in any way!

    xx