New year doesn’t really start on January 1st, or does it? I don’t think so. I think it starts on the day you actually start working on your goals. You don’t really want to wait for a new year to make new beginnings and new resolutions. If there is something you really want to do right now, it can be something really small or really big – anything that can get you one step close to your dream – it should be done right away! I don’t really believe in making resolutions because the moment you are taking about your resolutions – I feel you are already talking yourself out of it. Everyone does this including myself and that’s what I’ve observed most of the time. Whenever something sounds like a good idea or something you would want to achieve, most of us find a way to sabotage it before we’ve even begun. I don’t know why we do this ourselves and especially women. I don’t know about anywhere else, but in India we are raised in a world that taught us not to become too ambitious, too confident, too self – assured. I don’t know why.
The day we land on this earth, some decisions are already made for us. Everyone, including ourselves tend to second –guess ourselves more boys through out your lives. While growing up, we are not allowed to do a lot of things because we are girls, and when we are able to take our own decisions, we say no to a lot of stuff because we are constantly scared of failing. It’s a very weird feeling because there is a time when ‘no’ becomes your default answer to many things. Things that we might want to do. Some of you might want to learn how to skateboard, but you don’t because first – girls don’t skateboard and second keep telling yourself that you wont be any good at it – so you don’t do it. When I was a kid I use to do that a lot, saying no to everything. Fear of being judged was deeply rooted inside me and it still is. With time I’ve learned how to deal with it but it still sometimes takes a toll me. I hate making resolutions because of this – I have talked so many times out of doing something that I planned to do. You don’t have to be extremely good at something new or worry about everyone judging you or their expectations from you because you can’t please everyone! That’s the truth. So give yourself enough time and space to figure out stuff you like, people who like or don’t and whether not you feel like sticking with it or not. But try! Don’t talk yourself out of your resolutions, hobbies or experiences just because you fear being judged.
