Musings

On Confidence

Ahoy-hoy, BE folks. I hope August has been good for you. For me, it has been inspirational. Weather really lifts me up and it’s been beautiful lately. I love this time of the year. It makes me super nostalgic! Remember as kids, we use to get so much advice? Some of it actually turned out to be pretty useful: don’t press your pimples, never take anything from a stranger, early to bed early to rise makes and a man healthy, wealthy and wise, never shop without checking zippers and buttons, and finish your homework and some of it was utter bullshit. I think it’s better to skip it.  But the motive behind all of it wasn’t wrong. Like everyone else, people around us wanted us to have a happy healthy life. But there is this one thing that never fails no matter in what situation you are and that is – fake it till you make it.

Don’t get me wrong here – I don’t want you to base your life around a made-up personality. I’m talking about confidence here. Honestly, being an introvert in my early teens, I have faced plenty of issues with my confidence. I still do. I use to think that there is something really wrong with me. I use to get intimidated by situations (it’s still the same) but I just couldn’t let it frustrate me. For a very long time, I avoided being in situations like that (tiny cough). But it kept haunting me and I thought to myself – What am I running away from? And more importantly why? I can just put my I – CAN –DO it intentions out there and deal with it. I’ve improved over the years – a lot needs to be done still though. I still feel terrified of going to a place where I don’t know anyone. But I do it anyway. I do a lot of self-talk and make myself understand – you are a cool person, you know you have something to add. May be sometimes I suck at it – but at least I’m trying. You have to fake it till you make it, honey! You have to give yourself a chance. Choosing to be in such situations does make a lot of difference. Half the battle is won. Literally! Hope this was helpful in some way. 

Laters!

xx

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